Who has the time for this??

It has occurred to me recently that being the ultimate 'nice guy' is a really good way to make a woman want to have nothing to do with you. I mean, I DO try to treat women with respect, I am chivalrous, and in the end it really gets you nothing. you can bring flowers daily...massage feet...cook every meal to exacting specifications...do everything you can to make someone know how you feel, and yet it all just gets flushed away heartlessly.

The women that I know that I am just not interested in (in a romantic sense) are all over me like white on rice in this same kind of fashion that I described above. I guess its a yearning for something that you can't have that really drives the human psyche to do such strange things, to act in such strange ways - all of them very unattractive and reeking of desperation.

Now, I am also guilty of feeling that way toward women that don't want ME. It's very much a 2 way street - this isn't just limited to one gender.

You know what, though. I really really hate when people just stop calling you and you are sure you did nothing wrong. This happens too frequently for my taste - not like its an every day or every month (or even every year) occurrence, but at the same time, it's too many times for my liking.

The worst part of it all is that when that does happen, something snaps inside and makes me become something that people really hate. Then again, it's a direct result of being rejected silently. There is almost nothing in this world that irritates me more. No one likes being rejected...but to be rejected without explanation, damn, I wanna scream!

What I wanna know is: What it is about me that they may have found so unattractive that they would be compelled never to tell me. I mean, I am always striving to be a better person...always...but you can't get there without constructive criticism sometimes. Its sad, because a word from someone that rebuffs you can be more motivating than encouraging words at times.

So, a word of advice to all you women out there...let the guy know what you feel...yes, he may not like it, but at the same time, you'd be doing him a favor. Inadvertently, you could change someone's life completely.

And for all the women that might be reading this (not) and have pulled the 'no contact' thing on me: email me and let me know why you decided that I was not even worth a 'goodbye'. Thanks.